Menopause Myths | Out with the old, in with the new (and true)

Menopause Myths | Out with the old, in with the new (and true) We've come so far in sexual wellness — a concept that intertwines our relationship with sexuality, community, and emotional wellbeing. It’s the understanding that our minds connect with our bodies and influence one another. Sexual wellness is when we integrate our sexual health into our general wellbeing. As we get older, our bodies go through various changes that affect all areas of our health: sexually, mentally, and socially. Up

What Does It Really Mean to Be Sexually Fluid?

Each product we feature has been independently selected and reviewed by our editorial team. If you make a purchase using the links included, we may earn commission. Sexuality is one of those evolving concepts that may be difficult to ever completely wrap your head around — but maybe you're not supposed to. Society tends to want to label sexuality as a way of figuring out who someone is in relation to everyone else. But what if everyone was just able to experience their sexuality without having

Couple Privilege Is One Reason Why Being Single Sometimes Feels So Hard

Each product we feature has been independently selected and reviewed by our editorial team. If you make a purchase using the links included, we may earn commission. As with other privileges, it's not anyone's fault — but it pays to understand how you fit into this dynamic. Getting the side-eye when you dine in a restaurant alone or being told you can't receive medical treatment unless you can prove you have a way home (hello, Uber and Lyft!) are two examples of how some benign acts can have an

Here's What Intimacy *Actually* Is, and How to Build More with Your Partner

Each product we feature has been independently selected and reviewed by our editorial team. If you make a purchase using the links included, we may earn commission. "Intimacy is extremely important and is one of the main aspects of a relationship that makes it nourishing, rather than a burden," says Alexandra Stockwell, M.D., a relationship and intimacy expert and bestselling author of Uncompromising Intimacy. "You can feel supported or respected in a relationship with someone who is polite, co

How Aphrodisiacs Help Us Engage Our Mind, Body, And Senses

I remember going on a date to a restaurant and trying oysters for the first time in my life. The guy across the table from me smiled meekly and asked if I knew what oysters were. I didn’t. Turns out, they’re widely known as an aphrodisiac and for a reason beyond me, he took my meal choice as a sign that I was down to have sex. I wasn’t. All this is to say, what in the world are aphrodisiacs? What could oysters have in them that would make you want to jump anyone’s bones? The answer should be s

All About The Female Orgasm, Including How To Have One

We’re told that sex isn’t good unless we have an orgasm - that orgasm is something we’re supposed to achieve. That, as vulva-having people, our sexual experiences aren’t successful if we don’t orgasm from them. This storyline of orgasms as the end-all, be-all of sexual pleasure is not only false, it’s damaging. It can cause anxiety and overwhelm in anyone who hasn’t had an orgasm. The truth is, you don’t need to have an orgasm to enjoy sex. Nothing is wrong with you or your body. “Having an org

How To Practice Erotic Hypnosis — The Orgasmic Experience For The Mind

Every session starts with you and your hypnotist laying the foundation. You'll talk about your goal for the session, your soft and hard limits, and insight into your life. The more pieces of the puzzle they have, the better. Then, the hypnotist suggests you into a trance. During hypnosis, a person's attention leaves their immediate environment and clings to "inner experiences such as feelings, cognition, and imagery," according to research by hypnotherapist Ann Williamson. You enter a conscio

Here's What It Actually Means to Be Asexual

Hear experts share what it means to be asexual, how it's different than celibacy, and why everyone could use some clarification. Did you know Spongebob was an asexual character? It was never explicitly said in the show — and I doubt many children watching would have known what "asexual" meant anyway — but the creator clarified in 2005 that he considered Spongebob to be "almost asexual." That little sponge is far from the only one: As many more characters in recent films, TV shows, and books ide

The Modern guide to vaginal bleeding

Vaginal bleeding isn’t always blood that comes from your vagina — well, not really. According to Dr. Eva Luo, MD, MBA, an OB-GYN and medical advisor to Modern Fertility, “What’s often called ‘vaginal bleeding’ could be coming from anywhere — the uterus, cervix, or even the rectum." In many cases, though, all we see is blood down there. So, what’s considered normal? What's important to watch out for? We’ll cover the different types of vaginal bleeding, causes of abnormal bleeding, and when to c

Which hormones impact your skin health? And how?

Our skin is often a reflection of what’s going on inside our bodies. As our largest organ, the skin creates a layer of protection from the environment and is “intimately connected” to our brain, says board-certified dermatologist Dr. Keira Barr, MD. While your hormones influence your skin, your skin can also influence your hormones. As a receptor and effector of hormones, your skin is more than a barrier between your internal organs and the outside world. It has its own connection to the hypoth

Sexual Identity and Sexuality, How Do They Fit Together?

The world as we know it is shaping itself into a ball of sexual inclusivity. Bathrooms are unisex. Terminology is budding in new, exciting ways. So much is happening in sexual health and wellness, it’s tricky to keep up. Sometimes memorizing these terms is confusing and discouraging. In honor of this year's National Coming Out Day, we want to talk about how sexual identity fits into the grand scheme of your sexuality. Your sexuality involves more than the gender you identify with and who you’re

Mutual Masturbation: How To Intimately Engage With Your Partner

Masturbation is generally recognized as a solo act of pleasure. But the ways we experience pleasure go much deeper than that. Mutual masturbation is an opportunity to explore and enjoy our own bodies as well as our partner’s body. Masturbation is the sexual act of pleasuring yourself. And believe it or not, it doesn’t always have to end in an orgasm. Sometimes sex isn’t about reaching climax, it’s about feeling good and in tune with your body. Mutual masturbation is masturbating with your part

Can You Reach Orgasm Without Using Your Hands? 25 Ways To Try It

"A hands-free orgasm is any type of sexual climax that does not involve the use of hands or digits of the person experiencing the orgasm," says adult performer and licensed psychotherapist Jet Setting Jasmine. There's more emphasis on how the other parts of your body aid in your sexual pleasure. There's no one way to define what counts as "hands-free." If you aren't using your hands to stimulate your body, then you can consider it hands-free. It may involve using toys, energies, breathwork, hou

Best Horror Movies for Couples: Snuggle Up and Get Spooked —

If you love spooky season as much as we do, then you understand our love for horror movies. Horror movies are notorious for increasing your adrenaline and making it impossible to sleep alone at night. Spooky season gives you the chance to round up your partner, find a few good movies, and turn a Netflix-and-Chill date night into a horror movie marathon. Having someone there to freak out with you, cuddle with you, and impulsively shout out movie plots is what a partner in life is for. Let’s fac

Healthy and Happy -- Writer Alex Shea on Finding Peace In Her 3B Hair | The Trim

I was in a fantasy world where straight hair was best. I spent years confused and underwhelmed about my hair. As a White woman’s first child with hair that wasn’t wavy like hers, she was lost when it came to the kinks and knots my hair created throughout the day. Because my mom never knew what to do with my curls, I grew up not knowing what to do with them either. I went from a puff to a low bunny-tail that got me through middle school. In junior high, hello puberty, I started to pay a lot of

This Is How Long Women Want Sex To Last, According To Research

In the 1960s, William Masters and Virginia Johnson outlined the human sexual response cycle after studying couples having sex in a lab setting. This model describes four phases of a person's sexual response—excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution—and asserts that sex follows this general order every time. In addition to the Masters and Johnson sexual response model, many clinical studies use the intravaginal ejaculation latency time (IELT)—the moment the penis enters the vagina until the ti

Vulva and vagina anatomy 101 — plus expert tips for vaginal health

Growing up, we all watched the standard puberty video: You know, that video that told us a whole lot of nothing — conversely leaving us with a whole lot of questions? How many times have you glanced down there just out of curiosity? It may be time to grab a mirror and catch up with what’s actually going on with your vagina. Vulvovaginal anatomy and how it all actually works First things first, the proper term for what you may call your vagina is really your vulva. The vulva is the exterior par

5 Things To Look For in a Healthy Relationship —

Don’t think for a second that the couples you see on Instagram aren’t arguing about which shower curtain to buy. Because they are. Every relationship comes with its own obstacles, even yours. The good news is relationships come with a lot of good parts, too. You only have to pay attention. What does a healthy relationship look like? A healthy relationship looks and feels like whatever you say it looks and feels like. There’s no golden rule or model when it comes to what a healthy relationship

Your Clit Is WAY Bigger Than You Think

First, throw out every image of peas and beans and little buttons that you’ve ever associated with your clit. That’s not what your clit looks like—well, it’s not what the entire clit looks like. A clit actually contains 18 distinct parts made up of muscle, erectile tissue, and tons of nerves(1). But, similar to an iceberg, the tip is all we see and 90%—90%!!— of the clit is under the surface. And way different than the button idea, it turns out the clitoris actually resembles a wishbone. Go figu
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